I’m a huge Meetup fan — I’m a member of a ton, and attend several religiously. So enamored of the concept am I that I signed up for additional notifications from Meetup, of newly forming Meetups and ones that I “might be interested in.” So I’m getting a lot of emails I’m getting from Meetup now.
So a few days ago I got an email for some entrepreneurial type Meetup, and I signed up. A day or two later, I got an email that the group was closing. Not in itself altogether unusual, as Meetups form and close all the time. What what unusual was the organizer’s message when you clicked through. It was a defensive, “screw you” to the members of the group bemoaning people who RSVP’d but didn’t show up, among many other ways the members of the group failed to appreciate all the value that was being bestowed upon them.
In some ways, I sympathized. It’s hard to launch something new when you don’t know if you can count on anyone to show up. But this guy, he took it personally. I built something awesome, he seemed to be saying, and you jerks couldn’t be bothered.
What struck me most of all about the letter was what it said about the writer’s tolerance for failure.